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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

What Now?


What Now?
{a post Pride rumination}

Pride month has come to an end. Now that we are properly into July we can take all of the last couple months in and consider what to do now…
Tranny Bingo is still a thing, the name hasn’t changed.
The entire LGBT internal war over slurs has died down until the next major offender says something stupid.
The negative things that happened to trans* women at a few PRIDE events across the nation have slid away to be forgotten.
Radfems are still rabidly anti TS women.
We have not reached a place of agreement between gay men and TS women over the use of transphobic slurs. The word war seems to have simmered to a dull mutual disdain. There are no major flame ups between the groups at this moment, but there could be a spark set it off at any time.

From the vantage point of this writers view of the world, stagnancy seems to best describe the state of the queer world.
Yes we are making gains in the courts with marriage rights being affirmed for all people, but there is not the normal atmosphere of exuberance one used to see when these judgments were handed down. Sure the various LGBTQQAI…etc/Queer organizations make a public post on FaceBook or an article on their respective webpage’s but there is no fire in the ranks.
It is a done deal; it is just a matter of time for the last of the hold outs to equality fall before the onslaught of judicial righteousness we have seen over the last few months.
Now what?
Where do we as a class turn our energies?
To what shall we turn to next?
There are many things left undone, but there seems to be little motivation left in the queer universe.
Now I am not talking about the organizers and ‘usual suspects’ in the various groups. Those people have their own needs to do the work that are always individual to the advocate and do not apply to the mass populace. I do appreciate the work of our leaders, but without people to lead we are left with skeleton crews keeping the lights on so to speak.

Perhaps the people need a break from the cause. I understand that, I really do. But as we rest on our laurels there are still some major issues in our society that directly impact people of color and trans* people that must be addressed.
We can not just sit back and enjoy the break we feel entitled to when there is still so much left to do.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Spokane PRIDE 2014


This year’s PRIDE was a nice event. It was not as big as I anticipated but if I had taken a moment to think on it I shouldn’t have been surprised.
Now that we have Marriage equality in Washington State and the right to serve for LGB people the need to stand and fight for many is no longer an imperative. These PRIDE events bring more than the old guard and the revelers in all things queer; they bring out the social justice warriors and advocates. But if there is nothing to fight for, the advocates and warriors don’t show up. Their friends who would have joined them do not show up as a result.
I also noticed that the event itself had fewer booths, (This is untrue, it was merely my perception of the event) but an improved kid zone over prior years. And to whoever was in charge of that kid space…It was really cool. I watched the children play on the numerous things brought in for them and was a tad jealous and longed to be 5 again, just to go into the bouncy castle for a few minutes and act the fool with the rest of the kids.
There was a Colors Guard at the parade. Apparently this is only the third time the military has allowed an honor guard. When I saw the boys getting into formation at the head of our parade and it dawned on me that these men were not costumed Color Guards or High School ROTC kids but the real deal, I almost cried. It means allot to those of us who are LGBT and prior service to see the colors at the head of a parade formation. I had a feeling only a fellow soldier or veteran could feel when I saw them in the parade.

Then there were 3 horses in the parade that looked pretty neat with rainbow socks.

There was a contingent of Angels blocking out the haters. Again I almost cried when I saw them.

The addition of these seemingly small elements to the parade really touched it off and was icing on the cake so to speak.

At the event after the parade only a couple of people in the local queer culture snubbed me. A few gay men made it a point to give me some props on my stand and being vocal on the state of current LGBT politics. One gay man even made a statement on stage taking issue with the disrespect TS women were getting via the Tranny debate.

Over all, the event was a good one. In spite of being rained on during set up and an overcast day most the day we managed to have a good time, listen to good music and watch the antics of the local burlesque show and drag performers.

I want to thank the people of OutSpokane who put it all together and the various social justice organizations who came to represent, and even the vendors who came to sell us stuff.


See you at Spokane PRIDE 2015!!!

 

 

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Feelings of Pride ~Sevan

This may be a little wandering...but I do hope you'll stick with me. I really want to get this down.

As a young queer, around the age of 20 I went to see a production of Laramie Project. If you haven't seen this show, it's about Matthew Shepard's life and death. At the end of the show is his funeral, and the angles and their huge wings are present at the funeral to make it so that the family of Matthew don't have to see the protesters who have shown up. This is the first time we see the angels, and the people who did that made a huge impact.

On the day that I went to see the show, life was....well, it wasn't good. So the show is forever etched into my memory intertwined with my personal horrible horrible day.

Fast forward to a few years ago. I saw protesters at PRIDE. Eh. No big deal. They didn't bother me. I rolled my eyes. Annoyed, frustrated by their presence...but eh.

Last year was my first year attending Pride within the role of youth worker. I work at a youth center for LGBTQ youth, and of course we attend Pride and march! There were more protesters than I'd ever seen before and the feeling changed entirely. Suddenly, I cared. Many of the youth I worked with were attending Pride for the first time. They were there to have a good time and be themselves. They handled themselves very well but I was scarred. You see, these haters planted themselves very strategically. They were the end of the parade route. You turn a corner and head forward for a few blocks and the whole time...there they are. Screaming, waving HUGE signs, on megaphones....and just HATEFUL. The community responded and chanted so loudly that you couldn't hear the hate. Drag queens led the chants and the hair on my arms stood up. While I wished the hate would never have happened...I was proud of my community and how we handled ourselves.

Fast forward to this year. I heard that there would be an angel brigade between the parade and the haters. The haters got their earlier than we would have liked and started their hate spewing LOUDLY and ferociously. They screamed at the youth I work with, saying horrible things like calling them fa***t, telling them that they make God cry, etc etc. My heart....oh my heart. This is an event I INVITE the youth I work with to attend....so many of them are having their first experience with Pride. As always, they handled themselves well, didn't engage with the haters and let the hate just roll off. In order to get from our booth to the spot we were to line up for the parade we had to walk by two groups of protesters. I started to think that maybe the angels weren't going to come after all.

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photo taken by Shar
We found our spot in the line up and waited for the parade to start. Then they came. The angles arrived.
I really wish I could fully express what it meant to me to see them. I don't know that I can, honestly. I teared up. I felt such relief. I felt a deep connection to something so personal and unique to the queer community. Our answer to protesters. Our way of doing things. From as far back as early 90's, this is what we've done.

While I was discouraged to still be able to see their signs as we marched, we couldn't see *them* nor could we hear them. The youth planned chants and were so loud they reverberated down the streets and BOOMED.

The rest of the day was lovely, filled with friends, acquaintances, smiles and fantastic performances. Thank you Spokane for being well behaved (except the haters...) friendly and putting on such a wonderful Pride.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

PRIDE Spokane 2014 in 2 days

In two days we will have PRIDE in Spokane. Our annual event dedicated to all things queer has been both work and fun for me for the last 5 years.
But this year is a bit different. This year I will walk in with fear of my peers.
Why?


The recent online wars over unacceptable trans* slurs between gay men and transsexual women has already spilled over at PRIDE in Los Angeles. In private spaces and here on this blog women have shared stories with me that describe negative behavior.
Trans* women have always reported being treated as less than at various PRIDE events.
These stories float through the community and as a result a large number of TS folks refuse to participate.
Which hastens the eventual split of LGB and T I see on the horizon.
Now I am not particularly thrilled that it is coming to it. Not at all. Just I feel I have read the tea leaves so to speak and they say the LGBT is going to go the way of OutServe-SLDN.


Back to PRIDE.
I know trans* people locally who will not go to this years PRIDE due to years of reported abuse and the recent on-line abuse of trans* women. I know a much larger number of trans* people across the nation who will not participate in their local PRIDE due to these issues.
Now there will be trans* people at the various PRIDE events this year and well into the future.
Trans* have been associated in the common with gay. It is a very wrong association but it is what it is.


Just because you see trans* people at your local PRIDE event does not mean that the T is on board with the LGB. It is not a signal that all is well.
When you go to PRIDE this year, look for the old guard T people and see how few of us are there. The newbie with the bright eyes and full of passion for the greater cause is nothing of an indication of how the T feel about the LGB at this time. That is called shiny bright newbie syndrome and it wears off fast.
Look to the social war weary eyes of the few old guard trans* people for the real answer. The guarded conversations with formerly gung ho human rights warriors may be a hint of wear our hearts are at.


Now I am a firm believer in community and working together, but I also understand human nature. Sometimes you have to tear down and re-build. As it stands we have a completely shaky structure. I understand those who are madly trying to shore up the structure. If you get the right braces in place you might just make things solid enough to withstand the test of time. I get that. But I do not think the building can ever be saved at this point.
A complete tear down and re-build is in order. Then we can get back to work as a community. Until then we just have a clusterfuck and no one likes a clusterfuck.

Monday, June 9, 2014

A woman speaks about her recent PRIDE experiance in LA.


Terrible treatment at LA Pride brought me to tears

By: VivaciousVL aka veronicali

Originally posted at:
http://forum.beginninglifeforums.com/index.php/m/193340/fadcb9d18b57feecce86db09f0563301/#msg_193340

 

Thankfully, most people in WeHo just having fun in the spirit of equality and support. You guys were great.

This is specifically directed towards the many intolerant and trans-bigoted people that went out of their way to be extremely rude to me and my transgender brothers and sisters. Your behavior and obvious hatred towards trans people was nothing to be proud of. Rather, it shamed the city of West Hollywood and the entire GLBT community, and disrespected every single person that was really there to show their pride in expressing mutual acceptance.

I expected that my first time attending LA Pride would be absolutely amazing. I am a proud and authentic full-time trans woman, and the event was supposed to be putting the transgender community first this year. I was going to show my support and love for everyone in the spectrum. My actual experience was overwhelmingly different, and the way you treated us was despicable.

I could go into detail of how unwelcome and hated so many of you made us feel. I easily encountered more disrespect and harassment in two days at Pride than I normally do in six months.

You purposely misgendered us, making sure to put stress the sirs and bros to highlight the fact that you weren't willing to honor my expressed gender. You didn't know that I am a woman every minute of every day, or that I am a proud and visible trans activist who demands respect and equal rights, and unquestionably expects to be treated fairly by our community.

The message was quite obvious, that trans people were not wanted. Maybe you even hate us. It makes me very disappointed to know that so many of you went so far out of your way to mock us, laugh at us, ignore us, and express your intolerance of trans people. You were rude beyond belief, and put an enormous amount of effort into trying to make trans men and women feel they are inferior to you.

Your efforts did not succeed, as far as I am personally concerned, but I am stronger than many of my brothers and sisters. I pray that you didn't cause permanent harm but I fear the worst for them, knowing our trans community has an alarmingly high suicide rate. Know and never forget that any blood they may have let is all over your hands.

I hope that those of you that aren't transbigots will police the haters by sharing this. I still have love for the ones that hurt us.

 

 

Thursday, December 19, 2013

A very well spoken young TS woman responds to a potential suitor.

The following text is a message that I received from a friend. I was rather impressed with what she had to say and I asked her to post it on her blog. But she declined and suggested that I should share it on mine and attribute it to an anonymous writer.

So I shall do so. Here is the entirety of the message I received from Anonymous Writer:






Anonymous: "so I posted this to somebody on a dating site that said he was conflicted with the fact that he was attracted to me knowing that I am trans..."





"There's no need to be in conflict about being attracted to me. You're either cool with me and the knowledge that I live my life like any normal, regular, everyday, boring girl; or you hate the fact that my genitalia does not follow conventional standards and you decide to walk away.

Being with a transgirl is not something that everyone can handle, and I respect that. A lot of men seem to think that it makes them gay, which is a false assumption; or even more insulting still, they are afraid that someone will "find out" - suggesting that they would be ashamed to be dating a transgirl.

Also, a lot of people assume that because I'm trans that I'm some sexual object. Sure I enjoy sex, but I'm as average as any boring girl when it comes to sex.

People may also assume that I may be desperate; I will grant them that it can be hard to find truly open minded people - but it's far from impossible; and just because someone does accept me and shows they have no problem with me does not automatically mean that I will throw myself at them.

The thing to take away from this message is: I'm not a desperate, sex-hungry, porn-star transvestite - I am a normal, everyday, nerdy, laid back, hard working girl. I tell the world that I am a girl, and that's all they need to know, because it's the truth. I may have unconventional genitalia for a female, but that's no-one's business but my own. An uncircumcised male isn't required to go around broadcasting that he is uncircumcised, would he? So I feel no such obligation to disclose to the world about my situation.

I post the fact that I trans on my profile not as a courtesy to other people, but as a guard for myself. Posting it up front can filter out hostile people and potentially emotionally damaging situations later on. To be completely honest, I feel no obligation posting that information in my profile; I believe that if someone has such a huge hangup about dating a transgirl, then it is their responsibility to ask."


...





I think she has a good chance at finding Mr. Right with this outlook on life.



Have a great day!

Cynthia Lee

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Trans* flag ~Sevan

I know I mentioned how our trans* group had been working on a new flag to represent our community. Well we worked on it further and finally came to a solid conclusion for a design. I'd love to see it spread! So frequently I"ve heard complaints about the most well known trans* flag:


The complaint about that flag is the colors. They're "baby colors". I think the creator of the flag was trying to express that most trans* people were born in the wrong body. I can't know that...as I don't know the flag's creator. What I can do though, is make my own version of a trans* flag that might resonate with people more. I enlisted the help of my local trans* support/social group and we came up with this:


The top two stripes represent male (blue) to female (pink). The purple represents non-binary and genderqueer people (as the genderqueer flag colors are green, white and purple) the thin white stripe represents all people as well as the "line" trans* folks cross during their transition. Then the female (pink) to male (blue) along the bottom.

We've made a banner to march with for Pride and we've got small 5x7 flags that we'll wave as we march.


If you like this flag, if you feel that it represents you; then please share it widely! I'd love to see this flag gain ground and take off!!

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

2012 Rainbow awards ~Sevan

Every year Spokane holds the Rainbow awards. They're given out to an LGBT individual, an ally, a group, and the "over the rainbow award". (which I believe is akin to a life time achievement)

First there was a spaghetti dinner and we had so many people from the group show up that we had to steal seats and place settings from other tables. :) It was so wonderful to eat such a yummy dinner with my trans* family.
We moved from the dinner tables to the seating area to see the presentation of the awards. It came as a total surprise that those who were nominated also got certificates saying so! I was nominated for the individual award and especially after seeing who else was nominated I was so honored to be in such company. Here's me walking up to receive my certificate. I decided to go with a mens dress shirt and nice tie, paired with a long flowing skirt. One of my favorite :)

One of my friends was also nominated and got her certificate. Then it was the ally award. After that was the group award presentation. Once again, those who were nominated were really great groups and organizations that do AMAZING work locally. Hearing who was nominated it just stunned me that our little group won.


I went up and gave a speech telling the audience about our group, our achievements this year and how thankful I was (on behalf of the group) to receive such an honor. When I told the audience about how we'd grown from 3 people to 50 people in a matter of a year they all cheered and applauded! It was wonderful. :)


The "Over the Rainbow" award was handed out, and then they also recognized a wonderful volunteer who's really gone above and beyond the call.
After the awards were handed out, we stood around as a group and talked about how amazing it was to be recognized. I asked everyone what we wanted to do with the award. A few of my friends insisted that the award was for Cyndi and I. They recognized the work we do and that the award was for us. I was so touched!!
One of the women from the audience came up and congratulated us on the award. She also told me that she'd recommended *this* blog to her friend! I'm often amazed who reads this, or visits!!
A little while later I got a chance to chat with one of the LGBT therapists who used to lead a trans* support group. Cyndi and I had visited the group once but didn't really connect with the style. Nice people, just not a setting that suited me. Well as we caught up she told me that she didn't do her group anymore, and had been sending people our way. She also said that in all the time she's been coming to the Rainbow Awards...no trans* person or group had ever been honored. That we were the first. That she was so proud of what we're doing, and she trusts we're doing great. Wow. That was amazing to hear.
We left the awards smiling ear to ear. We took a few of our friends home so they didn't have to ride the bus. Conversation was good and more affirming about the work Cyndi and I do.

I literally fell asleep smiling.

Here's my certificate of recognition.


Here's our certificate of award for the Group. :) They even made sure to include the asterisk! :)


The award itself. So pretty! It's hanging at our house. I'm beyond happy and honored. Yea. Honored. That's the perfect word to describe how I'm feeling.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Cyndi and Sevan on the radio!

An hour video ended up fitting into five videos. Please excuse the crude edit job...I've never made videos before and we all talked so fast in the radio show there was nearly no breaks or pauses that would fit into editing nicely! Anyway. Here's the first video:

The second video:

Third:

Fourth:

And the final video:

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Spokane Trans* People documents ~Sevan

Hey all!
So I'm the facilitator of my local trans* support/social group. I think I've mentioned that a time or four. ;) So in prep for Pride we've been creating many documents for us to share, as well as our own version of the Trans* flag! I'd love to see our hard work shared and used to educate and bring people together.

Here is a PDF brochure that's aimed at educating allies.
Here is a PDF brochure that's a 101 introduction to MtF identity.
Here is a PDF brochure that's a 101 introduction to FtM identity.
Here is a PDF brochure that's a 101 introduction to Genderqueer/Non-binary identities.
Here is a PDF hand out that's a glossary of terms for transgender concepts.

Last but most certainly not least...here's our version of the trans* flag.

From top to bottom the colors represent MtF (Blue, to pink) Non binary identities represented by the purple and white stripe, and FtM (pink to blue)

Monday, March 19, 2012

Flags (and other graphics) talk. ~Sevan

First two random graphics I've come across recently. *I didn't create these*


The "transgender umbrella" hehehe. I LOVE this because first...I love graphics. Second...I dig words. I found this because I was looking around for a graphic that would fit into the presentation that Cyndi, myself and a few others from our support group are doing for the LGBT youth center on Friday. I wanted to have visuals that would help them to understand in a 101 kind of way...what we're saying. Who we are.



This one I put as a link because it's HUGE and some of it's smaller parts are really hard to see. So it links to the larger image if you want to see that. (opens in new window)



Onto flag talk. For as long as I've been trans* I've heard peple complain about the trans* flag:



It's baby blue, baby pink and white. (just in case that's not how it shows up on your screen) and the biggest issue with it seems to be the "baby" colors. We're all adults (mainly) and the baby colors seem to bother people. At meetings flag discussions will crop up. Online flag discussions pop up. It dies down and no one has solutions but I often hear "ew. I hate that flag" and it just comes up like popcorn. All the time. It's suppose to represent going from one side to the other, and the transitional process. The other piece is that no matter which way you hang it, it's always right which is to represent how people who have transitioned now feel "right".


There's an alternate flag but it's not as well known or as frequently seen:



Biggest issue people have with that flag is first...it doesn't make that much sense to some folks. It also looks alot like the bisexual flag:



So I decided to do something about it. It's not like the creators of those flags had a degree in flag making. They were just people who decided to create a banner they could be proud of, and that made sense to them. So I made one that makes sense to me. A dark blue that goes to a darker pink up top represents male to female, the purple stripe down the middle represents those who are non binary (and blue and pink make purple) and then the pink to blue on the bottom represents female to male. I looked at it until my eyes crossed while I tried to find just the right shades of color so it looked right, and didn't have the same shades as the bi flag. These colors can make your eyes cross when they're wrong and clashing! I know...I've discovered this the hard way!



I shared this with my local group and so far everyone has been really positive about it. I might be making a banner for us to march behind in Pride!!! We have one already but...we can't seem to track it down. See:



This banner was made by six of us who used to meet pretty regularly. It was led by the guy on the right who's holding the banner. He stopped leading the grou, and we kinda fell apart until the center opened up meetings and Cyndi and I started faciliating. We've tried to get this back from him, and he's offered it...but we've just not been able to make it work. He either forgets, or we forget, or he's working when we come into town...any number of reasons why it's not quite worked out for us to get it back from him.


Then I started thinking...hmm. Maybe this shouldn't be the banner we march behind anyway. It doesn't represent the people who are in the group now...maybe they should be able to make their own banner to proudly march behind. And so...maybe we will. We probably will. And it might be my flag concept that we create! That'd be pretty darn neat. :)

Friday, February 10, 2012

Date with a straight.

Tonight OutSpokane is putting on its 3rd annual Date with a Straight. The idea is to auction off 12 volunteers for a valentines ball being held on Saturday the 11th. The proceeds will go to OutSpokane's efforts to put on the Pride parade and continue their mission of education.

http://www.outspokane.org/


http://www.outspokane.org/straight_date.html

Sevan will be one of those auctioned off for charity. I hope to win the date with Sevan but if I do not it is OK. It is for a good cause!

So if you are in the Spokane area stop by Irv's tonight, have a few drinks and pitch a few bucks to the Pride cause!!!

hugz and luv,
Cynthia Lee

Sunday, June 13, 2010

PRIDE

Yesterday we marched in Spokane's PRIDE march. Well I got wheeled around in my wheel chair by a friend and Sevan. (I am disabled and need a wheelchair whenever I will be forced to be out for a long time.)
I had fun and from what I could tell Sevan did also.
We marched with our local trans suport group. Spokane Transpeople.

For all the fun I had I do have one issue that I am surprised I have.
Every other time I have been to a festival and the PRIDE I went to in Pheonix had ALOT of vendors. Our PRIDE did have some vendors but there were not enough vendors around. We only spoted 3 food kiosk. The funny thing is when I went to Pheonix pride they had too many vendors! Seems I can't have a happy medium.

We didn't stick around to watch the awards ceremony or any of the stuff they planed. We just went around the park and had fun.

Anyways...
I think if you are LGBT and have the time and are willing to be public, you should make your way to your local PRIDE this year. The more of us that show up the more we demonstrate our combined economical power. Individualy we may have varying levels of resourses, but combined we are an entity that spends enough money to draw attention.