Why Trans* Women Should Reject HRC’s Apology

Human Rights Campaign president Chad Griffin gave a tepid, sort of apology at the Southern Comfort Conference Atlanta today for HRC’s lack of working with TS women.
Here is his speech as reported by The Advocate:

Hello! Thank you! I wouldn’t be half the person I am today without strong Arkansas women like that. Love you, mom.

It’s an honor to be here with all of you at Southern Comfort, where so many transgender people find strength and fellowship, and where so many allies can come to listen and learn.

I want to thank the organizers for the months and months of hard work that went into making this conference the success that it is — the Southern Comfort board members Lexie, Stefanie, Blake, Phyllis, and Christy, and special thanks JoAnn and Lisa for all your leadership as well.

I want to cut right to the chase here today. There’s an elephant in this room, and, well, it’s me.

Some of you may be wondering what I am doing here. Some of the more skeptical among you, particularly those I don’t yet know, may think I’m lost. I promise you I’m not. I’m here for a pretty simple reason. I’m here because I want to be here. And I’ll tell you why.

A few months ago, I was at the Ohio State University in Columbus for an HRC event — our Columbus annual gala, as a matter of fact.

Anyone here from Columbus might know that the Student Union at OSU is this big open building with this huge atrium that stretches all the way to the top floor, with event space on each level.

Our dinner was on the second floor. And when I arrived the HRC crowd had already turned out.

But when I looked up through the atrium to the third floor, I saw that there was a conference going on. Some of the attendees had noticed the activity below; they were clustered around the balcony, looking down at us.

It was a trans conference. The largest in Ohio. The 6th Annual TransOhio Symposium, organized by the courageous Shane Morgan. They were gathering after a string of trans women were murdered in Ohio last year. Another murder took place shortly after that conference was over.

And I’m going to tell you the honest truth: I had no idea the conference was happening before that night. And here all these committed transgender advocates and allies were—scholars, educators, everyday folks and their families there to support them. And instead of all of us working together, taking stock of all of our progress and the challenges ahead, and finding comfort in each other’s company, “they” were upstairs, and “we” were downstairs.

And, in that moment, despite all the progress the LGBT movement and HRC in particular have made on transgender issues in the past couple of years…

No matter how many brilliant, new transgender and allied board members, volunteer leaders and staff members are helping HRC broaden our work…

Despite every inclusive state non-discrimination bill we’ve fought for…

No matter how many thousands of hours and millions of dollars we put into the campaign for a fully inclusive ENDA…

There that divide was, for all to see. Plain as day.

I knew in that moment in the Student Union that something was deeply, profoundly wrong. I went up to that third floor. Introduced myself to as many people as I could. I felt like the biggest jerk in the world, because I knew that gesture wasn’t nearly enough. It wasn’t anything, really. I promised next year we would work more closely, that we would coordinate for the 7th Annual Symposium to ensure HRC had a deeper presence and a real partnership.

But all throughout that evening I had a sinking feeling in my stomach. We all know why that divide between the trans community and HRC exists, and taking a big step toward closing it is my responsibility.

So I am here today, at Southern Comfort, to deliver a message. I deliver it on behalf of HRC, and I say it here in the hopes that it will eventually be heard by everyone who is willing to hear it.

HRC has done wrong by the transgender community in the past, and I am here to formally apologize.

I am sorry for the times when we stood apart when we should have been standing together.

Even more than that, I am sorry for the times you have been underrepresented or unrepresented by this organization. What happens to trans people is absolutely central to the LGBT struggle. And as the nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization, HRC has a responsibility to do that struggle justice, or else we are failing at our fundamental mission.

I came here today in the hopes that we can begin a new chapter together. But I also came here to tell you the truth. We’re an organization that is evolving. We may make mistakes. We may stumble. But what we do promise is to work with you sincerely, diligently, with a grand sense of urgency, listening and learning every step of the way.

And I also want to be clear that I’m not asking you to be the ones to take the first leap of faith. That’s our job. My mom taught me that respect isn’t given, it’s earned.

Over the past two years HRC has dramatically expanded the scope of all of our programs to reach more trans communities than ever before, and I want to take just a few minutes to talk about that work.

First things first: an inclusive ENDA. It’s an absolutely essential piece of legislation. It will change millions of lives for the better. And as an organization, HRC will continue to invest in and fight for an inclusive ENDA.

But even a broad, inclusive ENDA isn’t enough.

If you’re trans, a fully inclusive ENDA doesn’t do much good if you’re living on the street because you’ve been kicked out of your apartment…if you haven’t been able to finish school…if even getting a job interview in the first place seems light-years away.

That’s why, in the next session Congress, HRC will lead the campaign for a fully-inclusive, comprehensive, LGBT civil rights bill. A bill with non-discrimination protections that don’t stop at employment, but that finally touch every aspect of our lives—from housing, to public accommodations, to credit, to federal funding, to the education we all need to succeed and thrive.

And I’m going to keep being honest with you, this is not going to be an easy fight.

We’re going to need everyone working together, arm in arm, and even then it could take years. As we’ve seen in non-discrimination fights from the city of Houston to, most recently, Fayetteville, Arkansas, our opponents will stop at nothing to halt our progress with their scare tactics and lies. Let me tell you what… The haters have got bathroom fever, and they’ve got it bad.

But I want to say something here today. Whenever the inevitable chant about “bathrooms” begins, they’re not just attacking you, they’re attacking me, they’re attacking us. We can’t let them win. We must hold the line. We will tell the truth. Because these are our lives, and this is the moral thing to do.

But even that’s not enough, is it? After all, it was less than two months after a Maryland coalition, including HRC, helped enact a statewide non-discrimination law that two trans women, Kandy Hall and Mia Henderson, were brutally murdered in Baltimore.

That massive disconnect … the disconnect between legal protection and lived experience … is what too many in this country don’t understand or, quite frankly, even realize. We can’t afford to just change laws.

In rooms like this one, for years, you have been making the case that we’ve got to change society at a fundamental level by lifting up more trans people, your lives, and your stories.

You’re right. And if there’s one thing we’ve all learned in this movement, it’s that once Americans come to really know us, it starts to become impossible to discriminate against us. And at our best, HRC offers an unmatched communications and public affairs platform to amplify LGBT stories across the country.

In just the past few weeks we have demanded stronger efforts from local and state authorities to protect transgender people, particularly trans women of color ...

We’re proud to support Casa Ruby and Ruby Corado’s courageous work to support trans youth on their path to employment …

We’ve lifted up the stories of transgender Southerners like Andrea through our expanded work in the Deep South …

And yes, we joined a group of national LGBT organizations in telling the Michigan Womyn’s Festival that transwomen are women too.

But we’re committed to doing more than just speaking out. It’s essential that HRC be meeting transgender people where they are, listening, and acting to create positive change. And we have an incredibly important foundation to build on.

Over 10 years, for instance, our Corporate Equality Index has helped shift trans-inclusive healthcare plans from a rarity in corporate America to a best practice that is the policy of more than 340 major companies.

Our Healthcare Equality Index has helped bring transgender competency training and patient and employee nondiscrimination policies to hospitals from the heart of the Deep South to each and every Veterans hospital in the country.

Our Welcoming Schools program has brought safer schools and well-trained teachers to thousands of transgender and gender-nonconforming youth.

But we’ve got to do even more.

Over the past two years I have worked directly with HRC’s staff to dramatically expand our work that distinctly impacts transgender people. From the workplace, to the schoolhouse, and from the hospital, to the church pew.

Think about it this way. Everywhere you’ve ever seen an equal sign sticker on the back of a car and even pick-up trucks — every small town in the heart of a red state—we can touch that place. We can change lives there, for the better, for good.

Andrea mentioned HRC’s newly expanded work in the Deep South, work that is reaching more people than ever before. Today, we are also significantly expanding and modernizing our HIV/AIDS efforts, because we know that so many communities — including communities of color, LGB people, and especially trans women, battle silence and stigma because of this epidemic. So many have done so much to change that, and we want to lift up that work and expand upon it however and wherever we can.

But we can’t stop there, either.

I talked a bit earlier about antitrans violence. Horrific and senseless murders that stain every state in this country and too often go unnoticed and unsolved. It’s time to call it what it is: Antitrans violence is a national crisis.

Look, this is a complicated issue that brings in race, employment, poverty and so many other factors, and none of us in this room have the solution today. But what we do know is we can never, ever accept this violence as a given. And together we have got to turn the tide.

I’m here today to declare that a core aspect of our work moving forward will be to work with you to develop a national response to the epidemic of antitrans violence in this country.

Some of our senior team members, folks like our director of foundation strategy Jay Brown, our senior legislative counsel Alison Gill, and our new deputy chief of staff Hayden Mora are central to this work. And of course, our Board of Directors, including the tireless Meghan Stabler, who spoke to you here last year, and Mollie Simmons, who is here with us today, is working with us every step of the way. All of us are undertaking conversations with movement leaders, community organizers and individuals who are already at the forefront of tackling this issue.

We need all hands on deck.

They are supporting our trailblazing State and Municipal Equality team in undertaking conversations with movement leaders, community organizers and individuals who are already at the forefront of tackling this issue.

None of this work would be possible without trans advocates. I am so grateful for those who have been fighting for trans equality, literally, for decades and decades. From Shannon Minter, Mara Keisling and Ruby Corado, Lourdes Hunter, to Diego Sanchez, Monica Roberts and Masen Davis, and every single one of you in this room. You are not simply movement leaders, you’re an inspiration. You’re an inspiration to me personally.

Look, by now it should be clear that I didn’t come here today to tell you that HRC is perfect and that you’re wrong for not seeing it. Because we’re NOT perfect, and you’re NOT wrong.

What I am here to say is what a young trans man told me in the heart of Mississippi. It was a meeting with a bunch of local LGBT people in a church community center outside Jackson. There must have been 20 folks in that room, everyone telling their stories, sharing their struggle. But his story sticks out most of all.

You see, Bryson’s a city worker. Transitioned on the job. And almost overnight, he began to face unprecedented harassment. They made him shave his dreadlocks, even though his other male colleagues wore their hair long. They even went after his wife at her place of work, so much so that she was forced off the job. He was just completely run-down, with only his family standing beside him.

I couldn’t believe it. Why did he come to that meeting in the church that day? Why risk so much to tell me his story, despite all he’d been through and was still going through? He looked me in the eye and said, “there’s always going to be hope for a change.”

On that night in Columbus, Ohio, standing on that third floor balcony, I thought about Bryson. I thought about that young man in Mississippi. How can we, all of us, ever make that change happen if this divide between us persists?

My friends, please continue to hold HRC accountable. Hold me accountable.

Please be in conversation with us as we do more than we’ve ever done before.

We have come too far together not to share our progress.

We have come too far not to share the fight against the obstacles ahead.

There are a lot of people like Bryson out there hoping for a change.

And I promise you here, with my sweet Southern mom and all of you as my witness, that we won’t stop fighting until everyone in this room and everyone across this country has the equal protection, equal opportunity, and equal dignity that we all deserve as human beings.

Thank you very much.

 

My main issues with his speech is that he gave no indication that he saw HRC as anything other than the only logical leader in the LGBT to spearhead and advance the causes of trans* people. There are a number of National level TS/TG organizations that HRC should be working with in a secondary role. HRC has messed up too many times in the past for TS women to ever feel we can let HRC lead. If HRC wants to truly work with TS women then they should partner without trying to assume the leader position.

My second issue is that he never apologized for specific slights and insults. He generalizes and glosses over some real issues. The structure of his speech reads like an executive telling his subordinates that ‘yes I messed up, but WE are going to move on and I am the boss’. That just doesn’t work for this activist.
How about we just take one example of recent behavior by HRC that demonstrates the hubris and self importance of the HRC… the issue where HRC held a fundraiser in Seattle but none of that money went to the local activists:

An Open Letter to HRC on the eve of their HRC Seattle Dinner

 Greetings Dean, Christine, and Scott,

 I was recently asked by a prominent LGBT community leader if I was planning on attending the HRC Seattle dinner next weekend- I told her there was no possible way. You probably haven't heard my name before, I wouldn't be surprised - but a quick rundown of who I am. I work as the Policy Director at Basic Rights Oregon, I also was the founder of Gender Justice League in Seattle, a Seattle Pride Grand Marshall this year, and the founder of the Coalition for Inclusive Healthcare with Marsha Botzer at ERW/Ingersoll. My work has lead to the repeal of Transgender Healthcare exclusions in all private and public insurance (including Medicaid, all major insurance carriers, and for state employees) in both Washington and Oregon in the last 3 years, New prison in jail policies for the housing of Transgender people both states, both trends that I have helped to spread nationally. I'm not tooting my own horn - I just want to contextualize my email and where I am coming from as a largely unfunded activist. I also designed and taught the second Transgender Medicine class in the country at University of Washington - that is to say, I am no slouch.

 As an activist over the last 4 years before joining BRO - I worked on a shoe string budget. GJL's annual budget is $44,000 - not even enough to pay a minimum wage salary. I worked 2 part time jobs - as program manager for Q-Law (the LGBT Bar Association) and as the ED at Gender Justice League in our first 3 years of forming. I took a position in Oregon because it was the only LGBT activist job in the northwest that paid a living wage - I continue to live and work in Seattle 3 days a week, a far from ideal situation.

 All of this is to say - while I know HRC was substantively involved in the Ref 74 campaign. I was feeling mightily resentful and "what have you done for us lately" in Seattle when asked if I would attend. Particularly given the fact that ERW has all but fallen apart with no staff and no agenda to speak of, our efforts to remove exclusionary health insurance policies have gone completely unfunded (we have not received a single grant) -- and our donor base - the Transgender community is largely living in poverty, unemployed, and thus unable to contribute significantly to local organizations stunting our growth for work that if it were around marriage would have been far more well funded given how effective we have been. It landed hard to see HRC hosting a large-ticket fundraiser in our back yard; all while not sending a penny back to our state or community.

 I feel a bit disappointed that you have chosen to highlight Joe Manganiello - great a True Blood celebrity, plaintiff couples in a Prop 8 case (nothing to do with Washington), A couple from Georgia (finally you are trying to work in the south, but where were you for the last decade - I was working with folks there in 2005 onward) .... but not a single relevant regional activist in recognition of the actual work that is happening in Seattle.

 It feels a bit like HRC are a vampire who has swooped in to suck the blood from the largely untapped major donors of Seattle (without ERW around)-- while giving essentially nothing back to our community, and while highlighting NOT A SINGLE piece of actual work happening in our state. I realize you all are local Seattle folks - that's awesome, but where is the recognition of the work happening on the ground here?

HRC has a huge stage. A megaphone compared to organizations like Gender Justice League or LGBT Allyship, or Gender Odyssey. Queer Youth Space - the only LGBT youth led organization in our state just shut their doors for good. Only 11 shelter beds are available on any given night for LGBTQ youth.... and yet - none of this will be discussed on your stage to donors in our state.

 I wish you all had taken this opportunity to elevate local work - not done by HRC.

 But then again, that might not empty the pockets of your donors; hell it might even benefit local activists who do not have a well oiled development machine, and we can't have that!

 I met Fred recently in April in Denver at the Equality Federation Communications Bootcamp. He seems nice enough. I wonder though - how will HRC ever move past it's troublesome community reputation as a rapacious insidious national organization that shoves aside Transgender people, Queer and Trans people of color, and local activists to suck the blood, life, and in particular MONEY out of our communities to fund a rather luke-warm Trans exclusionary national agenda?

 I wish I could attend - but on an activist salary actually doing the work, I cannot afford luxuries like a $225.00 a plate dinner to hear about work completely irrelevant to my community.

 I wish you the best of luck with your event -- I apologize if my words sting or seem harsh. It is disappointing to see HRC making the same mistakes perennially and to have failed to learn from the past. I wonder - with the $200,000 you all raise next weekend - how much of it will come back to Seattle to fund the seriously important work happening here? Not a penny I suspect, and that is deeply disappointing and only builds ill will among influential community leaders such as myself -- it does nothing to mend the fences with the Trans community. A disappointing choice, but then again - you all have the cash to continue to make so many disappointing choices these days.
With warm regard & best of luck on your event next weekend,
 Danielle Askini

TS people have a long and rather bitter history with HRC. I have not even scratched the surface of the list of grievances TS folks have with HRC. So long as HRC insists that it is the leader in the fight for trans* rights, and it refuses to not ‘just’ apologize for mistakes and insults but correct past issues, I cannot in good faith encourage my trans* brothers and sisters to support them.
Now how do they fix things? Well ‘sorry’ is a start, but opening up their coffers and giving some of the money they have to local organizations working on queer causes is a good start. And I am not even talking Grants…I mean direct donations to the general funds of Trans* organizations without stipulations, riders or expected reports.

Basically I am saying “HRC, put your money where your mouth is.”

Sorry HRC, but this TS activist and advocate politely declines your apology. I think we deserve more as a class from you guys at this point.

Fallon Fox: A Woman at War

I will be honest and lay it out there:
If Fallon Fox was not a transgender woman, I wouldn’t be a fan. I only know about her because she came out of the closet as a TS woman who is involved in mixed martial arts. She pretty much was forced out as there were members of the press ready to go public with her private information.  As I pay attention to all things trans* I paid attention to Fallon. It certainly isn’t the fights; I do not watch the fights.

When she first came out it was a little obvious she had no desire to be a poster girl. But it seems society had different plans for Ms. Fox and the role of advocate and TS role model was thrust on her.

In the time since she was forced out by unscrupulous members of the press, she has represented and really come up to task in the capacity of a role model for TS rights advocates.
She has written articles, made public appearances and been active on social media all for transgender rights. All while maintaining her training and participating in the fighting world, she has been a stalwart social warrior.

Well, as fighters are prone, she has a fight upcoming soon. She will be fighting Tamikka “Boom Boom” Brent’s on September 13^th in Illinois.

Well cool, so big deal, she is fighting…it is what fighters do.
Ah but see there is a bit of a rub to all this:
Tamikka said some shit. {I know, that is part of the game…fighters talk smack about each other, but this time it is different.}
This is a quote from Ms. Brents
“I am tired of Fox getting all this publicity just for being a transgender fighter rather than having great skills. I think it’s unfair anyway but as long as the opponent knows and accepts the fight then go ahead… I mean Allana took her to the third and she’s not even a 145er; she’s a more of a 135er who can probably go even lower to 125 pounds. She’s using all that attention as a good publicity tactic – go ahead and ride that free publicity train as long as you can. I’ll gladly derail that s#*t quickly so the world can go back to giving the publicity and notice to the female fighters who earn it. It just pisses me off that Women’s MMA has fought to get away from being seen as a side show. She’s using that to further her career while setting Women’s MMA back in the process.”

I know, pretty petty and downright disrespectful of Fallon and all transsexual women. But wait….
It gets even better:
Ms. Brents is known for walking into the ring with an LGBT rainbow PRIDE flag draped about her proud shoulders as a cape, and she is a lesbian.

So yet again we have a lesbian woman playing the trans-women are not real women card. This is a bugaboo that pokes its biased head up allot and it really needs to be retired.  

Had Tamikka not said the transphobic stuff and just kept her smack talk in the realm of normal fighter trash talk I might not find myself automatically rooting for Fallon. I would have been very invested into the fight on both sides. I have a lesbian mother and identify as lesbian myself. I might have leaned to Fallon. She is well known and well loved in the circle of TS advocates and activists I like to consider friends. Fallon has been a public face of TS women and a good advocate, whereas Tamikka has only walked into the ring with a flag on her shoulders a couple times.

With all that in mind, I hope Fallon Fox wins by a first round KO. Oh and Ms. Brents needs to leave the PRIDE flag in her locker for this fight. She is not the champion for LGBT rights. That distinction belongs to Fallon.  

 

 

PRIDE Spokane 2014 in 2 days

In two days we will have PRIDE in Spokane. Our annual event dedicated to all things queer has been both work and fun for me for the last 5 years.
But this year is a bit different. This year I will walk in with fear of my peers.
Why?


The recent online wars over unacceptable trans* slurs between gay men and transsexual women has already spilled over at PRIDE in Los Angeles. In private spaces and here on this blog women have shared stories with me that describe negative behavior.
Trans* women have always reported being treated as less than at various PRIDE events.
These stories float through the community and as a result a large number of TS folks refuse to participate.
Which hastens the eventual split of LGB and T I see on the horizon.
Now I am not particularly thrilled that it is coming to it. Not at all. Just I feel I have read the tea leaves so to speak and they say the LGBT is going to go the way of OutServe-SLDN.


Back to PRIDE.
I know trans* people locally who will not go to this years PRIDE due to years of reported abuse and the recent on-line abuse of trans* women. I know a much larger number of trans* people across the nation who will not participate in their local PRIDE due to these issues.
Now there will be trans* people at the various PRIDE events this year and well into the future.
Trans* have been associated in the common with gay. It is a very wrong association but it is what it is.


Just because you see trans* people at your local PRIDE event does not mean that the T is on board with the LGB. It is not a signal that all is well.
When you go to PRIDE this year, look for the old guard T people and see how few of us are there. The newbie with the bright eyes and full of passion for the greater cause is nothing of an indication of how the T feel about the LGB at this time. That is called shiny bright newbie syndrome and it wears off fast.
Look to the social war weary eyes of the few old guard trans* people for the real answer. The guarded conversations with formerly gung ho human rights warriors may be a hint of wear our hearts are at.


Now I am a firm believer in community and working together, but I also understand human nature. Sometimes you have to tear down and re-build. As it stands we have a completely shaky structure. I understand those who are madly trying to shore up the structure. If you get the right braces in place you might just make things solid enough to withstand the test of time. I get that. But I do not think the building can ever be saved at this point.
A complete tear down and re-build is in order. Then we can get back to work as a community. Until then we just have a clusterfuck and no one likes a clusterfuck.

A woman speaks about her recent PRIDE experiance in LA.

Terrible treatment at LA Pride brought me to tears

By: VivaciousVL aka veronicali

Originally posted at:
http://forum.beginninglifeforums.com/index.php/m/193340/fadcb9d18b57feecce86db09f0563301/#msg_193340

 

Thankfully, most people in WeHo just having fun in the spirit of equality and support. You guys were great.

This is specifically directed towards the many intolerant and trans-bigoted people that went out of their way to be extremely rude to me and my transgender brothers and sisters. Your behavior and obvious hatred towards trans people was nothing to be proud of. Rather, it shamed the city of West Hollywood and the entire GLBT community, and disrespected every single person that was really there to show their pride in expressing mutual acceptance.

I expected that my first time attending LA Pride would be absolutely amazing. I am a proud and authentic full-time trans woman, and the event was supposed to be putting the transgender community first this year. I was going to show my support and love for everyone in the spectrum. My actual experience was overwhelmingly different, and the way you treated us was despicable.

I could go into detail of how unwelcome and hated so many of you made us feel. I easily encountered more disrespect and harassment in two days at Pride than I normally do in six months.

You purposely misgendered us, making sure to put stress the sirs and bros to highlight the fact that you weren't willing to honor my expressed gender. You didn't know that I am a woman every minute of every day, or that I am a proud and visible trans activist who demands respect and equal rights, and unquestionably expects to be treated fairly by our community.

The message was quite obvious, that trans people were not wanted. Maybe you even hate us. It makes me very disappointed to know that so many of you went so far out of your way to mock us, laugh at us, ignore us, and express your intolerance of trans people. You were rude beyond belief, and put an enormous amount of effort into trying to make trans men and women feel they are inferior to you.

Your efforts did not succeed, as far as I am personally concerned, but I am stronger than many of my brothers and sisters. I pray that you didn't cause permanent harm but I fear the worst for them, knowing our trans community has an alarmingly high suicide rate. Know and never forget that any blood they may have let is all over your hands.

I hope that those of you that aren't transbigots will police the haters by sharing this. I still have love for the ones that hurt us.

 

 

The Fight for the T

Gay and lesbian voters got what they wanted. They have the right to marry and the right to serve in the military. Now that these vital human rights have been fulfilled, LGB folks are taking their free time and donation dollars and going away.
Yet the battles are not finished. Transgender people still have a number of issues they want to be addressed. Transgender people have long been told we would have to wait for the main issues to be resolved then transgender issues would be the next forefront issue.
How are we going to fight for the T when the LGB average Joe and Jane has moved on to their normal lives?
Now I understand there is a cadre of old guard who will stick it out and be very hurt by these recriminations, and I understand that hurt. You folks do put in the work. But where are your friends and allies that worked so hard for the right to love and serve?
The fight for the T is just now starting. If we do not have solid backing from our allies we will fail.


If we are going to keep the alliance it needs to be:
TBGL not LGBT